Wednesday, December 26, 2012

The Boss was Right



Anna Rose was so excited to see her friend Thomas last weekend. They live four and a half hours from each other, so she doesn't get to see him as much as she would like.

We all like Thomas. It doesn't hurt that we love his parents. Cooper and Beth are lifers. And it has been a thrill to see our children enjoy one another, especially Anna Rose and Thomas. I have to admit I'm guilty of perhaps encouraging this little relationship along, openly musing upon the benefits of arranged marriages, etc.



Well, Anna Rose hasn't needed much encouraging. It was fun to watch their reunion. It was at Wyatt's house, Thomas was over there playing. Wyatt is Thomas' best friend in Charleston. I smiled as I watched Thomas sprint out the door, Wyatt calling after him, "See you tomorrow?" Thomas running away, "Only if Anna Rose comes."

Good job Thomas.

I should have realized how Wyatt might have received such words. He reacted exactly the way he should have, threatened. The next morning, he was at Thomas' door before breakfast was over. I smiled, watching the three of them play outside, not seeing the determination in Wyatt's eyes: he was not losing his best friend to a girl!

We went to the farmer's market downtown. Anna Rose and Thomas were holding hands along the sidewalk. We ordered some breakfast burritos while the children ran in Marion Square. Sure enough, there was Wyatt. He told his dad we were coming. He waved Thomas over. They climbed a statue. It was too tall for Anna Rose. She asked me to help her. It was her turn to be determined. She was not losing her friend to a boy!

Have you ever seen a sadder picture?



Well, it went on like that all day. Wyatt was over after lunch. He wasn't planning to leave. He wasn't giving Anna Rose an inch. I was too late to see how his presence was hurting Anna Rose. She wanted Thomas for herself. Wyatt gets to see Thomas all the time. This was her one chance. I should have seen it earlier. Should have seen it before Wyatt came inside holding his neck.

Anna Rose had attacked him.

And she was not going to apologize. I could hardly blame her.

Of course we had to address it. Tears and screams were involved.

Later, Lia took Anna Rose for a walk. She asked her how she felt. She said, "I feel like I'm hungry, but it's in my heart."

That's exactly how it feels, Anna Rose.

Everybody has a hungry heart.

When she got back, Thomas was waiting for her on the porch. He gave her a bouquet of flowers. She grabbed them with a straight face. She handed them to me, saying: "Put them in my room." She walked inside without another word.

I heard Thomas say to Cooper who was standing with him on the porch, "Did it work, dad?"

It did, eventually.


What's it going to be like when they're teenagers?









4 comments:

Christ's beloved said...

sweet Anna-Rose <3

Anonymous said...

I don't understand where the gospel truth is in this lesson. Rather than encouraging a humble spirit in your daughter, you seemed to have encouraged a selfish and prideful expression of her bratty character. Hopefully there is more to the story thats redemptive than what i read here. But, it would trouble me if my daughter displayed the same behavior. When she is 16 and has car keys in her hand, this temper tantrum will be far more dangerous, physically and spiritually. Imagine how you would have felt if the other child had hit your daughter, would you have expected her to make a peace offering to the other selfish/jealous child? This story doesn't seem to show a righteous, Christ like "hunger."

Robyn said...

@anonymous-

I disagree with your statement. The point of this blog is the articulation of his daughters experience (which is something we all can relate to). Also, he never states no punishment was made, simply that he understood her pain. Attacking the character of someone's child behind the anonymity of a computer is not the place for such statement.

Ned Erickson said...

@anonymous-

I disagree with your statement. The point of this blog is the articulation of his daughters experience (which is something we all can relate to). Also, he never states no punishment was made, simply that he understood her pain. Attacking the character of someone's child behind the anonymity of a computer is not the place for such statement.